Dear Natalie,
I really like this girl, but we have been best friends for a while now. I don’t know if I should tell her how I feel about her and change our friendship into something more. I don’t know how she feels about me so I’m afraid that we could lose what we have now and ruin our relationship. What should I do?
—Just Friends?
Dear Just Friends,
It is very hard to be in your situation; especially since you two are such great friends. It is even harder since you have no insight as to how she is feeling about you.
Instead of approaching her first and telling her how you feel, try talking to one of her close, yet trustworthy, friends about your feelings. This friend can give you some insight into how she feels about you which can help make your decision easier. It is a huge risk to open up to this girl especially if she does not feel the same way. By talking to a friend, it will make the risk smaller and help you either save a friendship or create a romance. This friend could also help set you two up.
If you do decide to go for it and tell her how you feel, make sure it is not awkward. Do not forget that you guys are still the same people and that just because she knows that you like her, things do not have to be completely different. Also, do not be too serious when you tell her how you feel. Make sure she knows your feelings are true but do not make it an intense or awkward conversation. Ultimately, the decision to tell her how you feel is yours and the risk could be detrimental to your friendship but it could also create something amazing and wonderful. Just do your research before you take the risk that way you are not blind as to how your friend feels.
—Natalie
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