When handling conflicts with friends and classmates it is important to distinguish whether the issue is a conflict or simply a problem. A conflict is usually created when both parties perceive a threat from the other where there actually is none, according to HelpGuide.org.

Some may respond with extreme emotional reactions, withdrawals from others, or defensiveness and anger, when getting emotionally vulnerable, which are all reactions individuals use to protect themselves, which LA Concierge Psychologist speaks to.

Others may be able to communicate their feelings clearly and constructively by exhibiting empathy and being active listeners while discussing problems.
Understanding the other person’s triggers and possible reasons for their responses can be helpful while solving conflicts.

Work on managing your emotional responses together by validating feelings and calming down. Have a neutral and thought out conversation with the other person where you use “I” instead of “you” statements to show how you feel without seeming like you are attacking the other person and taking responsibility for your own actions, as suggested by Ohio State University Extension.

Create an environment where you can each find common ground and come to a compromise about what you can each do better for the other person to sustain a healthy relationship.

As long as you are understanding of each other, set aside your egos, allow for emotional intimacy, and work to reach the goals you have created and set for the relationship, it is quite possible and attainable to have productive and mature conversations and resolutions to conflicts in your personal or school relationships.