Prom is arguably seen as the second most important event in a person’s life, first being marriage, and it is the perfect excuse to splurge out and feel like a king/queen for a night. However, it is really necessary that we spend even more money on just the invitation aspect?
This is not an article saying that promposals shouldn’t happen at all.
Of course promposals are thoughtful and it’s heartwarming to see the pure joy of the person being asked to prom but there are ways that this can be done without the increasing pressure that comes with it.
The way that you’re being asked shouldn’t be more important to you than the fact that you’re even being asked.
Watching elaborate promposals that have gone viral, and expecting one for yourself takes away from the true meaning of the event.
There are actual people who get offended by the fact that they were asked through a phone call or a text rather than publicly in front of the entire school.
Let’s not forget that this is the one time in our entire high school career that we will be able to have a carefree night, to enjoy and have fun with our friends before we go our separate ways.
This need for a grand promposal and the increasing necessity shows just how much our mentality needs to change.
Most of the people who want a gesture like this, want it so that everyone can see that they were asked and so that they could post it and have everyone see.
If you were accepting the offer, it would seem nice to showcase it to everyone but what if the roles were reversed.
Public gestures like this can put the person on the spot and force them to accept the promposal even though they don’t necessarily want to go with the person.
In fact, it is much harder to deny a person if so much money and time was dedicated and it is in front of such a large audience.
These promposals also put pressure on people to couple up. Many being asked, and asking to just have a date.
A survey conducted by VISA found that teens spend on average $324 simply on promposals. In fact, Seventeen magazine also reports that in the northeast region, families usually spend an average of $431 on promposals and $738 for prom night, totaling $1,169 for one night.
This is crazy considering that this is just a high school dance.
Although it might seem a little cliche to say, you’re only going to have one prom night, so make sure that what you’re doing is for the right reasons.